Ros Hughes, local churchwarden at St. Benedict’s Gyffin, reflects on the difference faith can make in the pain of bereavement and loss.
The meaning of flowers by Ros Hughes
Ros Hughes writes:
This bible reading from Romans 8 is often read at a funeral service – words of comfort and reassurance.
During the past number of months, we have heard of so much sadness, distress, and bereavement. Few of us have not felt the impact of loss and grief and witnessed loss and grief for those around us, and through the media we have been constantly aware of those suffering around the world.
Recently, after the death of a friend, I found some solace in drawing and painting the picture above of flowers from our garden. While we can speak words of sympathy and remember those distressed, sick, and bereaved in our prayers, and for many this can be some comfort and support, we cannot take away the problems and pain of others.
Many years ago, there was a tragedy in our community – friends of ours lost their young child. My son was devastated by the sudden death of his friend who a couple of days earlier had been at his 5th birthday party. As my little boy clung to me in distress, I had tried my best to console and explain my belief that he was held in God’s unshakeable love through Jesus His Son. My son had replied to me: ‘But, I want to stay with, Mummy – I know you – and I don’t know Jesus.’
In the bible reading above, written in such poetic language, Paul wants to share his confidence – his belief and trust in God. He had understood the Gospel message and had lived and felt God’s love through Jesus, His son. We are living through difficult times and life’s circumstances have been challenging for many of us.
Previously held ideas and beliefs are questioned and confidence shaken. Just as my young son voiced his reaction in such complete honesty and openness – in our reflection and prayer today we need true honesty and openness ourselves as we come before God and consider these words that nothing can ‘separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus.’
How is God’s love being shown to you today?
mewn goleuni neu dywyllwch,
llawenydd neu boen –
mae Duw gyda chwi.
Bydded ichwi wybod cysur ei bresenoldeb –
heddiw a hyd byth.
Wherever you are
in light or darkness,
joy, or pain –
God is with you
May you know the comfort of his presence –
today and always.